WHY DO BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE?

Life’s greatest secret revealed…………………….

DON’T YOU JUST HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE TALK ABOUT YOU BEHIND YOUR BACK?  AND WHEN YOU UNEXPECTEDLY APPEAR ON THE SCENE THEY CHANGE THE SUBJECT – BUT NO ONE CAN LOOK YOU IN THE EYE

  • YOU KNOW YOU HAVE BEEN DISCUSSED.
  • YOU ARE SURE IT WAS IN AN UNKIND FASHION
  • YOU ARE EMBARRASSED FOR THEM AND FOR YOURSELF
  • YOU ARE UNSURE HOW TO ACT OR WHAT TO SAY
  • YOU FEEL YOUR SELF-ESTEEM TAKING A PLUNGE
  • YOU WONDER WHAT WAS SAID – HOW BAD WAS IT?
  • YOU FEEL BETRAYED AND DISLIKED BY THEM
  • YOU THINK ABOUT IT FOR THE REST OF THE WEEK
  • YOU FEEL HURT AND YOU START AVOIDING THEM

THEN IT OCCURS TO YOU THAT YOU HAVE DONE THE SAME TO OTHERS BEFORE ………………………..

BETRAYAL – Why do these things happen? I can explain it. It will take you back up the page in the end and you too will understand it.

THE MOST WELL KEPT SECRET

Life wants to reward us for every good thing we do – it’s like a Universal Savings Account where points for our good deeds are deposited and added up every now and then.  We receive payment in the form of good or great things happening to us. Things that we cannot achieve in the natural world, even if we tried hard.

Many times these good or great things come unexpectedly – like a compliment from someone you really admire, or someone you thought had not noticed you, suddenly invites you to their party. The bicycle you dreamed of shows up from the most unlikely source or someone sends you money out of the blue. As an adult, you may land yourself the most enviable and well-paying job – or get a promotion you did not expect. Sometimes things can be so great as to be miraculous, other times they are just little things that make your life easier or happier.

But here’s the deal. Every time you badmouth someone, gossip about someone maliciously or spitefully, (deliberately harmful) life takes back her gifts. The thing you need the most does not arrive. The frustrations in your life doesn’t let up. It is as if the heavens have conspired against you and you remain frustrated. Nothing seems to go your way. The credit balance in your points account has vanished into thin air.

All you have to do is to remember the last time you deliberately and maliciously gossiped about or badmouthed someone and you will clearly see why you are suddenly so stuck and why nothing seems to work out for you.

Try this for a few months and see how your life changes dramatically – then see.

People often ask me (as if I am the sole authority) “Why do bad things happen to good people?”

Well, I concluded that the ‘Good’ people also partake in malicious gossip, and similarly suffer just like bad people reap what they sow.

“Apparently” Good people are sometimes more malicious than “obvious” bad people. They just hide it better behind a facade of goodness. Now that you know, please tell others also – let us help ourselves to heal a very sick planet and get rid of unkindness so that we may benefit from the Universal gifts.

WE ARE ALL CONNECTED – WE NEED TO SEE THAT. When we speak ill into the lives of others IT AFFECTS US TOO.

Bad things have happened to me too, and for the same reasons.

I wasn’t always an Angel, you know!

Faithfully your friend

Thandi

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Self-esteem

Blooming Time. A time to feel special.

In my book “Blooming Time” we discuss issues of self-esteem and the impact it has on us girls if we don’t understand the building blocks to a healthy self-esteem during our development years.

Although there are outside influences which will seek to burst your bubble and try and keep you small, pay them little attention.

The biggest obstacle to a healthy self-esteem is in your own beautiful head. The self-talk that you have going round and round.
You know what I am talking about?
This usually happens when you compare yourself to others and find yourself coming up short. We all do that at some point or another.

Self-criticism or “OVER”-self-analysis is not a good thing. How do you find value in yourself? By listing all your good points.
Here are some tips to monitor your self-growth.

1) Get a notebook and pen and start recording what you see in your mirror (write it down). List everything about your physical appearance that you are happy about. If you have good teeth, start showing that off by learning how to smile broadly. Practice this in the mirror. If your teeth are not one of your better assets, learn to smile in a way that will conceal most of what you perceive should be concealed. With practice, you will get it right.

Next, list things like eyes and eyebrows, cheekbones, nose, neck, etc. These are all features which, when you analyze them independently, you will appreciate them more. The fact that you have eyes that can see, is good enough reason to consider them an asset. If you find them too close together or too far apart, is not as important as the fact that you can see. Listing your assets is more important than listing your perceived faults.

2) If you have unruly hair, practice the various ways in which you can style your hair that suits your face shape best. If your face is narrow,or oval shaped, certain styles will enhance your natural profile. If your face is round or square shaped, other styles will be more suitable. Hair is very important to all girls and it is something that we can change for the better. Write down your face shape and which styles you think is more flattering than others.

3) Whatever your body type, you will find some things you can appreciate. You may have fairly decent legs or an attractive waistline. You may have a big bone structure which will determine your overall size. Listing the positive points will help you determine what to do next. If you are very overweight, you may want to watch what and how much you eat. Maybe you have a sweet tooth that you need to tame or you may have a medical condition (like an under-active Thyroid) that needs medical attention.

5) Your choice of clothing should never come from the influence of fashion magazines, but rather what is best suited to your body type. For example, if you have a large torso, a loose-fitting top will be more flattering than a tight fitting top. Play around with your wardrobe and see which items of clothing compliment your body type best.

6) Look at your legs, feet, arms and hands. do you spend time on your feet to keep them looking groomed? Do you keep your fingernails in check? If you wear nail varnish occasionally, be sure to remove the varnish as soon as it shows signs of chipping or wearing. Your hands are always in view and is one of your assets.

7) Now that you have a list of physical “assets,” let’s take a look inside your head. What thoughts do you have going round and round? Are they thoughts of self-criticism? Are they thoughts of comparison about someone you perceive as prettier than you?
Every 30 minutes or so, ask yourself this question.

WHAT AM I THINKING ABOUT?

This is going to give you surprising insights into your mind.
Write down the things you were thinking about for a period of one week. At the end of that week, see how many times you were thinking critical thoughts about yourself (or others) and how many times you compared yourself to others (even their situations in comparison to yours.)

This is a most revealing exercise as you will see. It will clearly show you how much time you may have wasted on useless thinking.
To get your mind on your side, start doing the following:-

Start feeling happy (inside) for no reason at all, until your face lights up. Your girlfriends might ask what secret you are keeping from them. Happiness cannot be hidden. Next, start thinking about how well you did in a specific test and how good you felt. When someone paid you a compliment or your parents thanked you for cleaning the house, how did it make you feel? Duplicate that feeling in your mind.

Cultivating kind thoughts of yourself takes a bit of work, whereas condemning thoughts about yourself seem to arrive randomly and without any effort on your part. Feed your mind with positive and loving thoughts about yourself.

If you have any questions about this post, please feel free to ask them in the comment section. We can look at future posts answering specific questions that will benefit our readers.

Faithfully your friend,
Thandi

SELF LOVE

I’d like you to listen to this SONG then come back and read the post.

(Click on SONG) – Then come back and read the post, okay?

In our teenage years, girls are more emotional. Much of it is because of hormonal activity but we ignore this crucial fact. We love the ups and downs in relationships and even cause many of them, it makes us feel alive or in charge or whatever. The fact is, we seem to thrive on these emotions – I am still uncertain as to exactly why…………………….

If we have a break-up or a split of sorts in a relationship, we seek company in our misery and nothing will turn on the “tap of tears” more than a tear-jerking song.

Here comes the savvy advice. NEVER listen to a song like this at a time your heart is breaking. It is soul-destroying!

Rather listen to some Kwaito or up-beat stuff that will get your feet dancing and your mood up. My favorite has to be Mandoza’s “Nkalakatha.” Tell me really, can you sit down listening to this song?

If you listen to too much “TEARDROP N PENNIES” type of songs it will keep you from succeeding in loving yourself. SELF LOVE comes first, before you even begin dating. NEVER LOVE SOMEONE MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOURSELF. Remember that NONE of the boys you date at a young age are likely to become your husband one day. This is called the dating game because that is what it is. A game. (Off course you don’t want to hear this when your heart is breaking, but it is 99% true.)

So dry your eyes, love yourself, put on some up-beat stuff and see that boy running right back, A negative mood can never deliver positive results.

Faithfully your friend,
Thandi

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WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?

Can you fall in love with who you are? (The Tower of strength)

AND NOT with who you think you are! (The little grey mouse)

If we compare ourselves with others often enough, we soon find out we have become little grey mice. We need to re-evaluate ourselves every now and then, and write a new love story to ourselves. A story of pride, strength and overcoming.

Who you are, is not about what you look like or the colour of your skin, it is about who lives inside your skin. You may not always be able to access your strengths or even acknowledge them but they are there, inside of you. You know that you are more than what you see in the mirror.

You are also more than what you feel most of the time, especially if you are depressed a lot – you learn to feel like that little grey mouse. If you focus on how you look and what you feel like often, I suggest you change your focus to who you are and start to develop that part of yourself. Paying too much attention to how we look and feel keeps us stuck. Let’s look at how we can grow our character instead and how do we learn that?

Our real growth happens when our character is being tested. This is a hard one, yet this is where we experience most of our self-doubt. An example; How many times have you left a place and thought to yourself; “Darn, I should have said that, I should not have kept quiet, I could have done that, I am sorry I did not think of……………….And you feel like the little grey mouse. You wish you were as confident as Betty or a witty as Mpho or as charming as Daisy.

The reason you keep a notebook with you at all times throughout the teenage years is to write down those things you should have said. You may need them in another situation down the road, by which time you should have rehearsed them well. The other reason is, you never know when something you hear or read is linked to what you need to know for self-growth.

Building your character is not as easy as you might think and not something you create by design only, although it helps when you conscientiously work at it. The influence others have in your life also helps to shape it (for better or worse). It seems to happen randomly and when you least expect it, someone will try and test your wits or sling an insult or take some or other cheap shot at you. Very few people I know have an appropriate answer to these assaults.

When you encounter difficult people or situations, you don’t have the time to ask “Which part of my character do I need to work on now? Is it patience, kindness, understanding? Or is it time to say  NO, STOP, OH GO AWAY, I’M NOT DOING THIS!”

We have a misunderstanding about the word Assertiveness  but I want you to learn this word and think of it every day. It has nothing to do with pushing people around, bullying or getting our own way, but it stops us from treating ourselves like little grey mice. Let’s look at what this can do for you.

  • Being assertive is a great character builder and will help you feel good about yourself. When you feel manipulated in any way, you become frustrated and even angry. A real ugly and unlovable quality. If you encounter these feelings a lot, you will have reason to stop loving yourself as you should. You will become these feelings you identify with. Rather become a bit more assertive as it seems this is a vital link to building self-esteem. I want you to go and look up the word in the dictionary and also find synonyms in the thesaurus. That will give you a great idea of what it is, and what it isn’t.
  • We often don’t love ourselves because we compare ourselves to others. What if you compare yourself to me, just to find out I am busy comparing myself to you and I also don’t think I weigh up? We have to spend this energy and time on building our own character and our own self-esteem and self-love – not waste it on envying someone else because we perceive they are perfect.
  • This is where positive statement signs posted up everywhere around you become invaluable as it keeps you focussed. I have one on my bedside table, it says: “I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO IS REAL – EVERYONE AROUND ME ARE HARMLESS FIGURINES IN THE GAME I INVENTED – TO AMUSE MYSELF AND TO TEST MY OWN CHARACTER.”

Go to our blog page and find the story ‘WE ARE OPEN.”  You may want to copy some of the notes you can stick on a piece of board or write in your diary.

Accept people with all their beauty and perfections as you perceive it but do not insist that it is at your expense. You and I have some great things going for us and it is time we recognised it. Make a list of all the things you can think of that you’re okay with about yourself and see that list grow over the next few weeks as you concentrate on it. I know of a few things I can immediately put on my list and I’ll share them with you.

I am a hard worker, I don’t quit, I am loyal, I am friendly and sometimes funny, I have pretty feet, I can say NO. I also know I am not yet that tower of strength that is possible but I know I am growing in character every day because I focus on it. Not my Ego, my character. I am also working on becoming a bit more assertive. I hope you do too.

Faithfully your friend

Thandi

How do you make yourself feel worthy?

DO YOU FEEL UNWORTHY?

There are 2 main reasons for this. Either, someone said something to you – and you internalized it. (Meaning you bought into it by believing them).

OR……………….You said something to or about someone else – thereby making it their problem.

Let’s start with the first one. (Think carefully and write down what comes to you).

Did someone insult or demean you?

Did someone get angry at you?

Did you choose to believe them?

Are you trying to prove them right?

Are you trying to prove them wrong?

Did you download their cruelty into your mind?

How long ago did this happen? If it was long ago, do you still wear the scars?

……………………………………………………………………………..

OR

Did you hurt someone? Have you lost a friend because of something you said?

Does it bother you a lot? Do you feel ashamed?

Are you trying to defend yourself instead of apologizing?

Do you make it the other person’s problem? Is it too late to fix it?

Pain is the only consequence in both situations.

The reality is that NO ONE escapes these experiences.We receive bad information from others and we willingly dish it out to others. We cannot learn or succeed without this process.   We make mistakes with others and they make mistakes with us. Some people are just cruel in the way they say things – and sometimes we are cruel in the way we say things.

It is part of the process in life that teaches us how to become judgmental and critical of others – but it also teaches us who to avoid. We are what we are because of these experiences, relationship tragedies, mistakes. We learn and develop. It is part of a process and we become stronger for it and grow – or we cave in and become insecure and feel unworthy. We decide, in that instant, that they are right and that we are not good enough. It makes us defensive, aggressive and unhappy.

So when do you decide to become worthy? ………..When you allow yourself to believe in yourself.

You have to give yourself permission. If you have done something to someone, forgive yourself. If someone had done something to you, let it go. If you don’t, you will keep yourself small. Make the decision to focus on your own development and not on what others say about you or to you. It becomes easier to master this over time but you have to start right here.

If you have doubts about your own worth you will cave in at the slightest hint of an insult. This leads you to retaliate with a worse insult and you both go away in anger and in pain. There are two things you can immediately do. The first one is simple – don’t dish out careless words to anyone even if you feel they deserve it.  If you must reply you can calmly say something like “I think you are confusing me with someone else.” Most of the time you will just feel shocked by people’s ability to be cruel and might simply be lost for words – until later, when you endlessly mull over what you should have said. Believe me, this happens in the adult world as much us in the teenage world and in childhood. It is as though people don’t learn – or don’t want to learn how harmful this is. Don’t throw your life away because someone wishes you ill. They are not worth THAT much so don’t make them worth more in your life than yourself.

The second thing is to get your mind on your side. Make sure you don’t play their words over and over in your mind. If you do that, you are turning your own mind against you. Pretend you are a Princess and you are very wealthy. (After all your Parents are Royalty). Start feeling worthy and start seeing yourself as worthy -see it in your imagination. Your imagination is a powerful tool. You need to download this into your mind (repetitively). As of right now, start declaring this to yourself every day.

  • I am worthy of a good friend because I know how to be a good friend.
  • I am worthy of good relationships and a good life and will meet better people than these.
  • I am worthy of the best things life has to offer because I can appreciate good things.
  • I am worthy of the best Family because I know how to bring my part.
  • I am worthy of happiness regardless of my current situation – which can only improve.
  • I am worthy of becoming somebody great and will do what I must to get there.

Practice this for a few months. Remember only you can work on you and others can only work on themselves. We need to be better and kinder to others. We need great experiences and happiness. We need to respect others and respect ourselves.  We are all deserving – if we will only learn to stop breaking others down. This is not impossible but it does start with you and me. Always remember this – you are worthy because you say so. Give yourself permission to believe it.

Faithfully your friend,

Thandi

 

Have you ever had a menstrual period, Sir?

MEN SHOULD NOT BE IN CHARGE OF FEMALE PRODUCTS

AS IS PROVEN IN THIS HILARIOUS LETTER.

Entitled:- Have you ever had a menstrual period, Sir?

Wendi Aarons lives in Texas and she decided to send a letter off to Proctor andGamble(Sanitary wear manufacturer in the USA). It was regarding their maxi pad products.

To the Brand Manager:-

Dear Mr. Thatcher,

I have been a loyal user of your ‘Always’ maxi pads for over 20 years and I appreciate many of their features. Why, without the Leak-Guard Core or Dri-Weave absorbency, I’d probably never go horseback riding or salsa dancing, and I’d certainly steer clear of running up and down the beach in tight, white shorts.

But my favourite feature has to be your revolutionary Flexi-Wings. Kudos on being the only company smart enough to realize how crucial it is that maxi pads be aerodynamic I can’t tell you how safe and secure I feel each month knowing there’s a little F-16 (Fighter jet) in my pants. Have you ever had a menstrual period, Mr. Thatcher? I’m guessing you haven’t. Well, my time of the month is starting right now. As I type, I can already feel hormonal forces violently surging through my body. Just a few minutes from now, my body will adjust and I’ll be transformed into what my husband likes to call ‘AN INBRED HILBILLY WITH KNIFE SKILLS.’

Isn’t the human body amazing?

As Brand Manager in the Feminine-Hygiene Division, you’ve no doubt seen quite a bit of research on what exactly happens during your customer’s monthly visits from ‘Aunt Flo’. Therefore, you must know about the bloating, puffiness, and cramping we endure, and about our intense mood swings, crying jags, and out-of-control behaviour. You surely realize it’s a tough time for most women.

The point is, sir, you of all people must realize that America is just crawling with homicidal maniacs in Capri pants… Which brings me to the reason for my letter. Last month, while in the throes of cramping so painful I wanted to reach inside my body and yank out my uterus, I opened an Always maxi-pad, and there, printed on the adhesive backing, were these words:  ‘HAVE A HAPPY PERIOD‘

Are you kidding me? What I mean is, does any part of your tiny middle-manager brain really think happiness – actual smiling, laughing happiness, is possible during a menstrual period? Did anything mentioned above sound the least bit pleasurable? Well, did it, James? FYI, unless you’re some kind of sick S&M freak, there will never be anything ‘happy’ about a day in which you have to jack yourself up on pain pills and Kahlua and lock yourself in your house just so you don’t march down to the store – armed with a hunting rifle and a sketchy plan to end your life in a blaze of glory.

For the love of kindness, pull your head out, man! If you have to slap a moronic message on a maxi pad, wouldn’t it make more sense to say something that’s actually pertinent, like ‘Put down the Hammer Lady’ or ‘Bashing your car is wrong……..’

Sir, please inform your Accounting Department that, effective immediately, there will be an $8 drop in monthly profits, for I have chosen to take my maxi-pad business elsewhere. And though I will certainly miss your Flexi-Wings, I will not for one minute miss your brand of condescending bull.

And that’s a promise I will keep.

Always…

Wendi Aarons

We are OPEN.

There was a lady who opened a small shop.
After a month she became saddened that no one came into her shop.
She knew that, without customers, her business was doomed to fail.
She mentioned this to her daughter who asked to see the shop and instantly noticed the problem.
She said “Mum, You need a sign on the door that says ‘we are OPEN’.”

I am a great believer in posting signs all over the place, and since I read this little story
I have made some signs which I stuck on a cardboard backing and hung on a wall.
I keep adding to this all the time.
We are all different and different things matter to each one of us, but this is a fun way
of getting to know yourself simply by starting your sentence with I am open to……

I AM OPEN
I am open to receive kindness
I am open to receive respect
I am open to receive abundance
I am open to learn new things about myself and about others
I am open to do good and to receive good
I am open to being corrected by someone else
I am open to apologise when I was in the wrong
I am open to receive love
I am open to behave better as a Son/Daughter/Citizen/Pupil
I am open to curb my temper
I am open to softening my tone of voice when angry or upset
I am open to learn how to reason with a sound mind
I am open to embrace the value of my own life
I am open to embrace the value of someone else’s life
I am open to forgive someone (or at least try)

Sometimes we need to be kinder to others – sometimes we need to be kinder to ourselves.
I am sure you can make a list that will help set you free or help you to grow.
We are all struggling with something or other – but we must also be willing to surrender some of the baggage. Go make your list and put it up where you can see it, so as you can act on it at will. Then try and stay open to what you have agreed to. If you chose “being corrected” as something you  need to become open to, then do not fight it when it arrives. Take the message graciously from whosoever corrects you and move on. Do not let pride stand in your way, that will make you arrogant which is contrary to this lesson.


Some things you cannot do – but there is a lot you can open yourself to. Embrace it, do it and set yourself free.

Your personal growth and development is your responsibility. You have the opportunity to learn much at a young age which will benefit you in your future.

Don’t forget to make notes on everything that speaks to you – it will help you in your future and it will help others to have you as their role model and leader.

Faithfully your friend,
Thandi

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Teen Moms

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQA1BP64hgYBVi3cHcKyG7A)

Watch this short, fun video for some sound advice on raising kids. 

 

ADVICE FOR TEEN MOMMIES TO REMEMBER.

Teens are not emotionally equipped to deal with parenting – this comes with maturity. Don’t despair! You can practice some things daily and get it right. Whatever you have a problem with, ask someone. If the advice sounds foolish, you are not obliged to take it. If it sounds sane and reasonable, follow it by all means.

I found this train of thought in a magazine on parenting.

“Spoiling a child all the time is not the greatest way to raise a child. Discipline, however, does not need to be heavy handed at all. I do not believe in spanking babies because their memories only start developing around two and a half years of age (30 months). Spanking them,therefore, does not teach them anything other than to fear you” – not a good thing if you want to be a loving mommy. If a baby cannot remember why you spanked them or is unteachable at that tender age, there is a subconscious memory that stores emotions! Remember this. Emotions like fear, hate, frustration and a host of other undesirables is the foundation this individual will unconsciously build into his belief system about himself, about you and about the world.

If the above is true and correct, then how does one discipline a child from young? Google has tons to say on this matter. I liked this answer the best.

“Teaching your little one from young to respect a certain word NO (in a certain tone of voice) and a certain way you shake your head (from side to side) will soon teach them that, no matter how much they want to push the boundaries, you will not be swayed. Reserve this word, tone and head movement only for discipline and do not use it all the time – only when you want to exercise necessary discipline. You do not have to raise your voice at all. It is a persuasive action rather than a reprimand“.

So it seems the area in which young parents can go wrong is when they give in too quickly to stop the tears or the demands. (This sends confusing signals to their minds that “NO” can always mean “MAYBE” if they scream loud enough or shower you in tears.)

Practice makes perfect and you will do just fine.

Remember that a child who is not disciplined when young will grow into a demanding and self-serving adult. Don’t be afraid to ask for advice and act only on the advice you think will help you be a better mommy.

I would not pour wine over Ice cream, though – It sounds gross!

Faithfully your friend,

Thandi

 

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ASPIRATIONS

When you were growing up, did you stomp around the house in your Mom’s high heels?

Did you put tissues or oranges in your dress?

I think most girls do that because of our inborn instincts – that we were created for something quite magnificent. Girls become aware at a young age that our destination is to have a family of our own one day. We game-play from a young age with dolls, pushing them in a stroller, changing their nappies and bathing them. If the doll needs feeding, we improvise with oranges or tissues – so our plastic “babies” will stop crying. Every girl child emulates others of the same gender. We watch them closely to see what they do and copy that. The way we spoke to our dolls, was copied from absorbing the actions of adult females with babies.

Baby books – If you observe new parents, they are constantly pre-occupied with the comfort of their first-born. They do everything by the book (and hundreds of books on how to care for a baby, line the bookshelves). As we grow up, fewer books on “How to raise a growing child” line the bookshelves.

Teen Books – By the time we get to adolescence, our parents have long stopped buying “How to” books to try and appease us. This is the time we really get to know our parents (and how intolerant and unsympathetic they can be).

As confusing as the teenage years may become, it is also a time where we get to know ourselves. Because of the hormonal activities playing a major role during these years of puberty, we move from one confusing attitude to the next. We forgot how pleasant it was walking with our plastic doll and pretending we were grown up. Life becomes much more complicated.

If I asked you to go back to the age when oranges represented boobs and high heels represented adulthood, what were your dreams back then? What were your aspirations of “When I grow up….”

As a teenager now, has any part of your “younger self” survived? Have you stopped copying the actions of others in order for your authentic self to grow? Are you following your original path to fulfil the list of aspirations you held so dear when you were younger?

Do some soul searching to determine how far you might have walked away from your own dreams, in favour of copying or following others – and what are the reasons. It is never too late to re-write your future plans based on your authentic self. All you have to do is to go back (in your mind’s eye) and relive those years when you wanted to be grown up and have boobs. Why did you want to grow up so fast, to become what? You had some amazing visions of being someone right? Write those dreams down today. This will become your compass for a bright and beautiful future.

It will help you judge yourself (fairly) on a daily basis, whether you are living towards your own authentic dreams – or are you living out the dreams of others. Make that choice today and always remember the oranges. Those were the most magic moments in our lives.

Faithfully your friend,

Thandi

Daughter of Africa

DAUGHTER OF AFRICA

I would like you to read the words on the picture I used for this post.

Okay, in the light of what you have just read, and feeling all the PRIDE of a woman with a thousand dreams, What do you think of this statement by an MP and member of parliament.

(A usually quiet and ‘unknown’ EFF MP is almost guaranteed to be the talk of the nation for months to come after suggesting that schools should be able to suggest PROSTITUTION as a career to pupils.)  ???????????????????

The member of parliament, Lerato Mulaudzi compared prostitution with engineering which is every parent’s dream to see their child follow. Prostitution just like engineering she said, should be explained to pupils to educate them on the benefits to society, risks of doing it illegally and many other valid reasons. “S_ex workers are looked down by the society because of the stigma stuck on their work and we can start from the schools to try and fight it” she said.

WHAT ? THIS IS A PARLIAMENTARY LEADER AND A FEMALE ?

So here we have someone wanting to turn other people’s daughters into sex slaves. Do you think she would want that for her daughters? If she advocates prostitution, why is she a politician?

KEEP THIS FEMALE AWAY FROM OUR YOUTH. She has nothing to teach us and should be fired for making such a statement. These are the wrong leaders girls, they will lead us into a pit. This is not educational, it is degrading us.

We really have to apply our own reasoning to things, my friends. There are others who will sell you into drugs and slavery and convince you it is the best you can hope to achieve. Please stop being gullible and DO NOT FOLLOW WRONG ADVICE.

Becoming educated is key to escape the idea that girls should be used, abused and SOLD. This female should be banned from offering any opinion whatsoever. I have no respect for people who do not respect girls.

Teen Talk Africa is the platform for becoming streetwise and offering proper leadership. If you think Lerato Mulaudzi is correct, you can fight her cause alone. Mothers all over the world would not want that for their girls, so why would you want that for yourself?

Can you put the words from this picture in the same category as prostitution? I would think not. Be PROUD, daughter of Africa.

Be proud daughters of the world. For you are worth more, so much more.

Faithfully your friend,

Thandi